Code of Conducts are bloody important. In the last year I’ve been on every side of this. I’ve been a Code of Conduct representative, I’ve had to make a formal report, and I’ve had a report made against me.
The Code is there for a reason. It’s so that people have a framework of what is good and what is not good, and how they can get help if they need it. Being on the conference organiser end of this is hard. You have a document that says what behaviour is OK, and short of levels of abuse that get law enforcement involved, it’s a really delicate process of working how what to do and how to handle the ‘grey’ situations. I’ve been doing a bunch of work behind the scenes to try and make this process easier, but it’s difficult.
That’s why I’m extremely grateful to Ola and Ola for their CoC Handbook, which is an amazing guide as to how you can manage the physical handling of a Code of Conduct.
Guides like this as the next step in our evolution of Codes. It’s no longer OK to just have a page on your conference website that says “Be Excellent To Each Other”. Having a process, and following it, is the current standard that conferences need to have.
Self care is also extremely important. I wrote on this after returning from Europe, and it’s hard to read back on that post now because I know exactly how I was feeling back then, and it’s all flooding back.
I am extremely grateful for the opportunities I’ve had in the last year. I truely am. Best of all, I’ve spend time with wonderful people, and I hope I get to see them again soon, but if not, they will be in my heart, always.
 The “⚡️😓✨” talk has never been rejected. I’ve had to decline one offer (travel), and a talk based on the same sort of content, but with a twist, was rejected from a community well outside my usual haunts.